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Hell, I have friends who have changed their names for non-transy reasons. I just kinda suck with names to begin with, so it takes a minute for their names to click so I don't accidentally deadname Becky (yeah I wonder why she goes by her middle name now) and some of my other friends I've known since we were knee high to a grasshopper. Hell, one's my cousin and it can take me ten minutes to remember which variation of his name he's using this decade. It's kind of easier to remember my trans friends' new names because (at least with my friends specifically) their name change coincided with a look change and I'm a very visual person.
"which name they're going by this decade"
It's boggles my mind some folks (not that you did) bring this up as a refutation of some sort. A habitual Thanksgiving guest has been figuring some stuff out for a while. I couldn't care less what they go by, except in so far as I hope it makes them happy. Like I guess I'd be happy to see it consistent because that means that person found something they're extra comfy in, but in meantime you do you... And please pass the gravy... And also what did you think about starfield... Only reason we need to talk about it is if you need someone to talk to.
You're a little oversensitive to someone sharing their internal process. Some of us suck with names. If you can't deal with being called the wrong name sometimes, maybe you don't belong in society.
Fair enough. That's because I'll admit it's not something that makes a ton of sense to me; I've always felt pretty comfy in my own skin. On the other hand, I certainly have felt unwelcome, and wouldn't want someone to feel that way. So it's nice to hear whats going on in other peoples heads.