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I mean, as an asexual its hit and miss if I enjoy it. Like, being such a small subset i feel removed from most societal norms. Those with a sex drive, regardless who its for, still fit in to the sexual nature of human existence while I don't. I don't get off nor do I have attractions to any gender, I lack all of a sex drive so I am mainly one who views everything from the outside. Then again I love it as I am not distracted by anything and don't have those sexual vices. I however don't really come out to anyone about it unless it comes up in conversation, as most people don't seem to understand how it's even possible. I been told many times that I am lying or I just haven't found the right person yet.
i agree with this. it’s been hard for me personally because, as a sex repulsed ace, i’ve felt very unwelcome and ostracized in all sorts of situations, among aces and allos alike. making new friends can be hard with my limitations of really not liking any sort of sexual jokes or discussion, and so many ace spaces are full of grays/favourables who actually have sex all the time, and aces who are super proud of their identity and see no downsides at all, and i’m just neither of those.
i’m a LOT more comfortable with myself than i used to be thankfully, but sometimes it’s still hard. i wouldn’t say i feel proud to be biromantic simply because that’s a natural part of me i’ve never really had issues with internally or with others, but i’m somewhat proud of my asexuality simply because i’ve actually had to fight to be okay with what i am. that feels like something i should be proud of.
As a fellow ace, I feel this so much. It's why I think it's important for people to talk about and understand the unique struggles asexual people deal with.