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I'm not sure whether this is the right place for this question, but... How do you know?

Like, I would 100% be a woman if I could choose. I also always play a female character in games. When I see a girl I feel a strong sexual attraction, but I also feel jealous of her.

But, I'm honestly not sure if I am not cisgendered. I feel like I missed the boat. I also don't know if I am sure enough. Is this impostor syndrome? How do I know it's not just sexual attraction? Or me being unhappy with the role men have in this world? Or me being depressed otherwise? It all seems like a big tangled mess.

Thanks a lot for all the comments. I made an appointment with my GP next week and hope that he can refer me to a therapist. All the best to you all <3

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I think you should bear in mind that being transgender doesn't necessarily mean full on female or full on male if you don't want it to. There are non-binary options. Completely non-binary where you don't subscribe to any gender norm - not male, not female, and there is a spectrum of transfemme (non-binary but femme leaning) and transmasc (non-binary but masc learning) and you might find yourself anywhere on there.

Also being transgender doesn't mean you necessarily have to do anything about it. Just having a label to call yourself might make you feel more comfortable in your own skin, and help you to describe yourself to others. Hormones and surgery are just there as options for transgender people, but they aren't necessary.