OK so if you feel Lemmy has been trending towards hostility in the past weeks ppease here me out, interact in the comments but keep it civil.
Lemmy vs Reddit
We all had our reasons to move to Lemmy. What I remember clearly from the beginning of the summer was that we were all praising the tone. Over the years, Reddit has become increasingly toxic - most of all in the comment section. To me, that was what made Lemmy special. Even with less content, the general vobe was what made me come back every time.
clash of the clans
Due to the nature of the fediverse, we get to interact with people with different backgrounds and dofferent ideas. Potentially an incredibly enriching experience for everyone. Anti-defed lemmings defend staying federated with everyone for that precise reason, which I really get. But lately the vibe has turned sour. Every post that has the slightest political undertone becomes this big us-vs-them show. Please stop
discussion vs. shitshow
I am not arguing for stopping discussing our opinions. I also get the whole they don’t have downvotes thing. But can we please treat eachother with dignity, and when writing comments say ‘I believe’ or ‘in my opinion’ instead of ‘you all this or that’?
I think this is the only way forward if we want to prevent everyone from personally blocking a lot of instances in the furure.
Is it an inevitable problem with scale?
It is inevitable with scaling quickly. In the early days of the internet there were unwritten (and later written) rules how to behave. And people who didn't accept those even after being educated were usually banned for a time.
This worked because the early internet users were mostly us nerds and we tend to be able to have civilized discussions.
Every time new users came, those were quickly educated and if they didn't fit in they either left or built their own communities.
Of cause there were always trolls but they were few and quickly isolated.
The problem with people who couldn't behave started when people came in more quickly than they could be educated. And those who knew the rules didn't want to repeat the rules 20 times a day to some newcomers. So either a community stopped accepting new members or started accepting shitstorms.
Perhaps we are setting the entry bar too low. Many places in my city have gatekeepers that do not allow shirtless people to enter. The internet tends to gatekeep via subscription or employ moderators, if those elements are missing the discourse deteriorates with scale. I wouldn't mind paying for a service such as Lemmy if it maintained order. It's also possible to create cryptographic identities so users can assure their historical reputation using signed PGP, in this way dark web markets have reduced the problem of fraudulent sock puppets.