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I do understand your lack of time, you are not alone. I was hoping that my (similar educational and emotional) experience would show you that giving up and allowing hardships to move you backwards isn't the way to go. I'm not saying your goal will never happen for you. I'm saying the "finish line of success" is constantly moving, and this is a marathon and not a race. Don't let yourself get in the way of yourself. As long as your basic needs are met (housing, clothing, food) and you are making steps towards your end goal - no matter how small - you are making progress.
These are some of the things I stuck to after the burnout that kept the goal moving when working 45 hour weeks in an understaffed kitchen:
Obviously, the above may not work for you, it only serves as an example of how to redirect your feelings and reality to be a little more productive, to get closer to your goal. Your methods may be different.
My perception of you (going by posts on here and Mastodon) is that you have the passion that is required to succeed, and lack the self-confidence and determination to really go for it. The determination is the most important part because with enough determination, you are the one in the driver's seat. Use your passion to reinforce your determination. In time, the results of your determination will reinforce the self-confidence.
You can do it, you just need to believe in yourself. If it helps, I believe in you too. Big hugs to you, sis. You've go this.
I don't even think I'll have time for any of this between a few min wage jobs
What exactly do you want to hear? Are you hoping someone on here is just gonna offer you a job because of this sob post and your winning personality? People have given you lots of advice and your only response has been "but if I'm working for minimum wage I won't have time, waaaaa". Like do you even have one minimum wage job yet? If not, what are you doing with your time right now? Stop imagining some future where you're working 3 jobs and start doing some shit to better your situation. Or don't, because capitalism fucks everyone over and someone has to lose big. If you're certain it's going to be you then it probably is.