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Any clothing ideas for a mtf to ease into non-masc stuff? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I hope my enby peeps can help me out here.

I am very interested in exploring a more feminine expression, but my starting point is masc-af physically, so anything too feminine too quick is going to have a very hard contrast and I'm definitely more of an "I don't want to stick out much" kind of person.

Any ideas that may be more androgynous, but not attention grabbing that I can try out? I am not good at picking outfits anyway, so I need all the help I can get.

Like beard and full body hair, so obviously lower cut stuff could be very dysmophic atm.

Maybe something that just feelsmore feminine but may not look it so much. You know? Does this make sense?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (3 children)

ooo I'd love to get nail polish I'm just scared to ask lol

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I think sometimes the absolute hardest part is allowing yourself to do it.

People really don't care what you buy. If anything they do think it's for someone else.

I bought some recently because it was close to a shade I thought and on sale. The hardest part really was like convincing myself it's OK. Nobody said anything. It was all internal.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As a straight guy that started painting his nails, I can assure you that the entire process is surprisingly simple.

Buying nail polish? Hmm, he must be buying some for his gf how nice.

Wearing nail polish? No matter how vibrant, I have never had someone notice my nails unless I have had actual prolonged exposure to them, in which case they almost immediately assume it is because of a girlfriend or daughter or something.

Most of the time people don't notice, it took my boss two weeks even when we work next to each other pointing at things on a screen regularly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

As a queer guy wearing nail polish, I have a different (though not negative) experience. In my experience people do notice it, but often either give compliments or make slightly bigoted remarks that can be pretty easily laughed away or countered. I haven't come across anyone who was a total asshole about it up until now though, even when I pivoted to colours that weren't black.

It's also not that I'm a necessarily queer-positive environment or that people support it because of my queerness. Both family (apart from parents and siblings ) and colleagues are generally not aware that I'm LGBT+, and they're also usually leaning slightly "anti-woke". But at the same time they also seem to abide by the Dutch "live and let live" mentality. It seems like they just think "oh cool, he's a guy who painted his nails", which is definitely better than I was expecting of some of them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't know where you live, but I just got myself gifted my first or went to the convenient store for it. I don't know who you'd have to ask

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

still in my teens, would have to ask my mum :/

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Or you could ask friends for their nail polish?!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

You don’t have any of your own spending money? Maybe you could go after school on your own or something.