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When you go through his phone and dont find anything, now you have to get ready to apologize
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Honestly… who does that?
That sounds whacky af.
(going through a loved ones phone I mean)
I did. I'm thankful I did. I would have never had light at the end of the tunnel. About 25% of the population has an anxious attachment style, where this sort of behavior is expected when they are in an insecure relationship.
About 25% has an avoidant attachment style, who have a high likelihood of infidelity.
50% are secure. Secure types naturally help anxious types feel secure, so they don't do this shit. Avoidants actively make anxious styles feel much more insecure. As do anxious types on avoidants. Guess who gets a lot of consistent matches? Anxious and Avoidant. Secures don't stay in the single pool for long, neither do anxious. Avoidants are dating a long part of their life.
An individual can change their attachment style, but avoidants have the worst time doing so.
You can get a general sense of attachment style from the post.
There are subtypes of course, and lots of other traits. One thing to note is that the last significant (albeit tiny) proportion is disorganized. They experience traights of anxious and avoidant, and typically have very unstable relationships.
Edit: Wow, a lot of y'all are missing what I'm saying. I never said it was healthy or good. I said it was an insecure relationship. As in the person doing the digging is ignoring other red flags that are causing their anxiety to get to this point.
Seeing the responses here I want to add something to make people more upset: Co-depenancy is a myth.
No. I can't support being in a relationship with someone you don't trust enough to HAVE to look through their phone. Same with the other way around. I have zero interest in combing through my partners phone, it's their private device. If your partner wants to look through your phone, they're telling you they don't trust you. At that point, you have bigger problems
As someone with an disordered attachment style this behavior isn’t ok. It’s feeding the fear by invading privacy. You can ask for permission. But unless you have genuine reason to suspect something is up invading privacy isn’t ok. People with secure attachment styles may be able to keep going after this, but it’s still a violation of them.
And beyond that, anxious, avoidant, and disordered attachment styles while deserving sympathy are still unhealthy attachment. Secure is healthy. My anxiousness is a burden on my secure wife that I’m actively working on.
If you don’t feel secure in your relationship with someone you need to ask yourself if it’s you or them. If it’s you, you need to be working on it. If it’s them you need to start talking or planning to leave. Invading their privacy isn’t a healthy response to insecurity regardless of whether or not they cheated.
Source: it came to me in a dream
Everyone is getting what you're saying, but what you're saying is useless, victim-blaming nonsense.