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Edit - Hexbear announced plans to deferedate from us.
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~~After recent events, it feels to me that sentiment has shifted and more people are asking for defederation of hexbear than previously~~
~~I've been doing my best to try and mend bridges and keep us connected, as it's my hope that we can maintain trans solidarity and work with them, despite the friction, however, ultimately, I feel that this is an issue for the blahaj lemmy community to decide, not the admins alone~~
~~So here's what we're going to do~~
~~We're going to leave things as they are for a week. That will give time for things to calm down whilst we see if we can work together. After a week, I'll put up a vote and get a feel for where the community is at in regards to our continued federation with hexbear. That poll will run for a week. If there is a strong will to defederate (a clear majority), then that's what we will do~~
I completely agree. I also feel like blahaj has its own transphobic takes and maybe y'all need more mods / modtools to deal with bad takes like this, which maybe CARCOSA can help you with. I'd also take the vote to defed with a grain of salt personally given how many votes I've seen given out to people who question the validity of peoples' genders. I don't envy you needing to deal with all this nonsense, I got offered mod on hexbear many times but declined cause I didnt want to deal with what you deal with, got plenty going on in my own life.
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trans unity forever
I think you need to make some allowances for volunteer availability. I got to that post in under an hour. The hexbear post targeting me was up for over a day, and was only removed when I sent a DM to an admin, because that's just how it works sometimes. Volunteers aren't available all the time, and the moderation tools on lemmy are far from perfect.
You aren't paragons of perfection anymore than we are. We both have big communities with diverse opinions, and admins that are trying to keep community standards on track.
If you mean it when you say trans unity, then you need to allow for us to work towards it, rather than expecting perfection, especially immediately
Oh no, not saying you aren't trying or to get it immediately, sorry if the tone didn't convey that properly. Also fed seems a little wonky rn so theres a lot of delays between posts.
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