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Im very saddened to hear this. Sounds like staying in an abusive relationship because "They have good times too". I hope you rethink this decision, or myself and atleast a few others will stop using this instance
All I can say though is the reason I am making the choice not to defederate now is because I believe that this is the best chance of developing a large positive trans userbase on the lemmyverse. At the moment, unlike the broader fediverse, lemmy and kbin are quite hostile or indifferent to trans folk. Despite hexbears bullshit, one thing they are, is strongly supportive of trans rights. And if the bullshit is kept to their own instance, then we can benefit from the voices of their trans users.
If they can't keep their bullshit under control, then we'll cut them off.
Why not give it a chance and see how it goes?
The users of hexbear just are very bitter that we didn't adore their aggressive comments on the last post. I really just have a hard time seeing anything good coming of remaining federated.
They just call everyone who doesn't like their behavior a whiny liberal.
Keep in mind they have been in an echo chamber for three years. It's not a surprise that there may be an adjustment period where they work on their culture and come out better.
When I think of all the times that I've marveled at the person I've become (through working on myself), I'm really impressed that I got where I am. People change and grow and adapt and evolve. So do communities.
I like that Blahaj wants to try to find solidarity. I hope for this to be the attitude on as many instances as possible.
Why should we have to suffer for their inability to socialize positively outside of their bubble?
Because we're hoping for something awesome long term, not because we want utopia right-this-minute.
Another positive is that their feistiness will be directed at any transphobic bullshit in the wider fediverse