Transfem
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I get gender euphoria all the time, baby, nothing better than living my life. Most recent I'd say is swimming topless with my friends today, just felt like one of the girls.
First time, I think, is when I was very young and "played Pokemon for my mom". I'd do that alot actually, it just meant I'd play the girl character and not save my game.
My first conscious time was when I was with friends and I bought my first bra, a sports bra, it was great :) I'd wear it to uni under hoodies all the time (spring included).
Thy swimming trip sounds amazing! I only have my dreams. Goddess, I would love a time like that, it sounds so free, especially if it could be in the sea! I love the salt-water, it's so amazing!
I can't imagine buying a sports bra at this time! I love the idea of femme stuff but,.... It's.... Difficult...
It's okay! I've been doing this for years and started in bumfuck nowhere and lemme tell you: nobody cares. Just go grab a medium or so sports bra and check it out, no words needed, nobody will care. Not even those conservative white women with nothing better to do than shop.
I get that. I'm really not far from bumfuck nowhere. It's a safer place, but only a little, and outside its definitely red country. I get that nobody pays attention or cares for the most part, or even assumes it's for someone else. I think it's internalized oppress of multiple flavors. I might want to do something, but there's some fighting going inside, if that makes sense.
Get a trans friend to help you do it then, or just a gender bender friendly friend. Or keep my voice in your head, saying "DO IT NERD!!!!"
I will say, I was looking at my getting too long nails thinking about how to deal with them and then thought "Nah that's too obviously feminine too quick, and I'm not ready for questions or comments" and then I heard "DO IT NERD!!!!" 🤣
So thanks for the laugh at least