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I don't think I'd describe hexbear as polite, they seem to get pretty rowdy, even antagonistic at times. Otherwise I agree though. It would be a shame to cut off one of the largest queer friendly instances out there.
Yeah, Hexbear is old Chapo, they left Reddit for Lemmy years ago. Because honestly, ChapoTrapHouse was a problematic community sometimes.
We do a little belligerence.
It'll mostly blow over once we've familiarized properly with the federated experience, sometimes I'll find myself outside local without realizing. also yeah toning down the emotes on other's instances I fully get, that sounds unfortunately disruptive
Yeah the pig poop emoji is my one gripe about Hexbear
that's reserved for people who've shown themselves to be chuds, if it's even remotely possible to have a discussion we'll opt for that first
That's fine but outside of hexbear people don't know that and it's also just gross and annoying
If people are replying to you with pig poop balls a lot you're probably saying dumb shit
Nobody has replied to me with it I just don't like it and think it's annoying and gross
It may hearten you to know that internally we are having this discussion as well and I think it's likely to get much less frequent. This time next year you'll know if you see that image that a nazi is getting dunked on by your friendly neighborhood hexbear
Iirc the devs are working to make it not be giant for everyone else.
lol. Chapo got kicked off for being mean to Slave Owners.
I'm not saying I hate hexbear or anything adjacent. I was a member of Chapo before it left Reddit and just didn't make the jump. The John Brown thing was topic of the week when it was taken down, but what I remember the most from Chapo was the poop ball pig spam. Hilarious? Yes. Annoying? Also yes.
We were able to purge a lot of the dumb stuff out of CTH and made it better. There was a lot of chaser stuff on the old subreddit, I usually avoided comment sections there because itd make me too angry. The new mod team is very good though and obliterates transphobes and chasers on sight
We're polite when met with good faith, next time you see hexbears ask them a question about their beliefs or whatever is going on, a clarification, a tangent, whatever. Just ask a real question (not a bullshit weighted question designed to be a landmine) like "could you tell me more about X? I don't agree, but I haven't heard about that before" and you'll get polite and friendly responses (usually lol)
And yeah we get pretty rowdy and antagonistic at times like when we tell people to fuck off for throwing a fit about pronouns (which we did, then we banned them, then we made pronouns on Hexbear mandatory lol). That's how you protect your community from reactionaries, racists, and bigots
Are pronouns actually mandatory on Hex?
Yes.
Like you can link me to something that says that?
Just try to make an account without pronouns on hexbear, you'll see it is impossible.
Yes.
you're allowed to set them to none/use name if you really prefer, but pronouns are always displayed yes
it's part of what has made hexbear the friendliest space to be trans (period imo, but especially online)
Yes, and we banned everyone who didn't want them mandatory. Because using optional pronouns is just a magnet for "this person is trans, dm them 'you will never be woman, kys'" from Nazis. If everyone uses pronouns display, it is normalized.
Yes, but you can choose any/none/use name if you dont want it listed