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I struggled with this for a long time too. Nicotine is an absolute bitch. You can retire that habit though, you just need to actually convince yourself you are done, and then throw all that shit away, and just be frustrated for a week or two, and then never buy it again. There will be a few months where your brain will frequently nag you, but just tell it to fuck off and you are in charge, that feeling does become less and less overtime. The first week is a bit rough, but if you know that, it's much easier.

You cannot use the patch, or anything else with nicotine, as a crutch. Rip the band-aid off, you will be ok, and you can fucking do it, I know because I did. I've done some pretty hard shit in my life, and this was up there, but it is absolutely surmountable. Just make the decision, let the people in your life know and ask them to give you some grace for a few weeks, thank them for the support, and just fucking do it. Cold turkey is the only way, and it's very possible, you just need to decide.