As Dessalines replied, your assertion of losing donations is wrong.

But yes indeed, their views, those of .ml, and how both handle them, are driving some donors away. You're asking them to lay down their views, hide or change their opinions, separate from the vocal community on their server (noting that .world is just as vocal, self-righteous and self-assured), in order to develop the software that you use freely (well, that you might then donate to).

Honestly I feel that makes sense and nonsense at the same time. I can see it making sense in some circumstances; but personally I don't think so in these. Maybe the rhetoric I see on .ml just doesn't impact me the same as you?

But as an overarching argument that for the sake of Lemmy they should change... That just seems too much to ask, over the internet. Maybe to ask politely and accept a no. Maybe in person, one might argue and counsel strongly. But people are entitled to their opinions and the internet isn't actually such a good place to change them.

So if the devs keep devving Lemmy, let them. They're providing a good thing for us, and I hope more people donate.

As to the technical aspects, it just feels like an emotional outburst. FOSS projects' maintenance is always hard, and there are always difficulties. We do our best. They are trying to. And if a community came along that loves Lemmy and wants to develop it, they could either contribute or fork. Perhaps their fork would last longer? Perhaps not. But for now this Lemmy is here, and is Free, so we are glad to use it.