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‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere
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I say let it stand as a testament. Incels bring out the big guns when you get too close to reality. I've noticed this pattern over the years.
The propaganda is something to behold. This is the kind of thing young men are being bombarded with.
I know you're joking around, but I'll take advantage of the moment to rant on a tangent for a bit. I legit saw this attitude spreading through the moderator space on reddit a decade ago, as they started getting influenced by users to let slide more and more horrible takes so that "the community can judge for themselves" as tender, shut-in lads and lasses who were trying to manage our largest discussion forums without pay were suddenly being bombarded from all sides by people trying to subvert the subreddits and control them for their own agendas.
And largely, it worked. Many, many times I've seen subreddits and forums on other sites fall because the mods got compromised, the other mods got too burned out or emotional to keep doing their tasks, and as a result the conversations started allowing more and more incel-bait, tired tropes of persecution and misogyny, foulmouthed, delusional teenagers who have never left their houses suddenly making profound statements about the state of gender dynamics, and a whole ARMY of foreigners pretending to be normal Americans or Europeans on both sides of every argument, just screaming their nonsense louder and louder until the only users left were the ones who agreed with the delusion. I wish people understood that some of the most famous horrible subreddits and sites started as jokes and were gradually co-opted and hijacked to become unironic hate-spaces.
This was the plan all across the internet and it worked. We are all so tired of every argument and issue that most people don't engage anymore. We don't even try to correct anyone because we assume either other users know better, or will sort it out for us, or who cares anyway, what's even real? Just tune out, keep scrolling.
So now I say, no. We need to be far less tolerant of intolerance, we need to burn them out of their nests and dens. Reddit didn't go nearly far enough with banning the incel subs, they should have banned incel ideology, they should have banned redpill rhetoric entirely. I once would have balked at that kind of "censorship" but I'm now watching my nation dissolve under the stupidest movement ever created and I'm somewhere between shaking with rage and shaking with exhaustion.
Point taken. Looks like the guy is standing pat with his full blown alternate reality narraive. And he's still gotten more upvotes inspite of being so unabashedly in bad faith.
Ah well I wish mods would have nuked the whole comment chain.
Redpill, incel, gender-normative bullshit is violence. It seeks to hurt men by forcing them into the mold of "masculinity" (and defines that masculinity, in some places, in a very toxic fashion) and we all know how it hurts women.
It needs to be fought back, and as furiously as fascism.
This sentiment is why i commented. It does need to be pushed back against. Thank you
I don't think that you and I are entirely in agreement here, however. When I say that we need to fight back against this as furiously as we fight fascism, I absolutely condone the use of violence against fascism. It seeks to harm men, even the people brainwashed into supporting it, and it seeks to harm women, especially those who aren't willing to be subjugated. The paradox of tolerance is the only reason it's been allowed to go as far as it has gone. I'm not seeing a peaceful way out of it.
ETA: For the record, we're on the same side, and I love that for us! And I've upvoted you. I used to believe that violence was never, ever the answer, even the language of violence. But at this point... I don't think I can afford to hold that point of view any more.
hell fucking yeah brotha. We did it before, we should keep doing it.
I'm also not a pacifist for what it's worth. Thanks for being you
Big same. Hope we run into each other again ♥