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Enbyphobia sucks [CW: Transphobia] (sh.itjust.works)

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Got misgendered and yelled at recently by a trans woman who argued that I'm just a cis person trying to seem special and that I don't understand what it's like to really be misgendered and oppressed. She told me that I don't understand real dysphoria and that I'm just trying to stand out as a "cool dude". Ironically I felt progressively more dysphoric and angry every time she kept calling me a man. It took every last ounce of willpower in me to stop myself from beating her bloody. Now I'm feeling like shit today and probably will continue feeling like shit tomorrow.

Why are some people so fucking terrible.

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[–] lazyneet 6 points 19 hours ago

Are you my boyfriend? jk jk but as a non-binary transfem who gets misgendered every day and has a lot of male-coded attributes I can sorta relate. I think if you're medically transitioning that probably means your dysphoria is worse. If one of your male-coded qualities is stoicism, I recommend letting your sadness show more visibly and communicating more openly about how you feel and what you're thinking. That way, people are less likely to call your judgment into question.