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Ah yeah the group of people that have the highest suicide rates don't have any problems to talk out. You're right, we should tell them to suck it up and be a man.
You're the reason I hate feminism. Please fuck off.
They were talking about MRA's and how that movement is/was very misogynistic and just a backlash to 3rd wave feminism. That movement hid behind real struggles of men to just be misogynistic and uphold patriarchy.
Men have very pressing and real struggles however you can't solve those problems by hating women.
MRAs existed before third wave feminism and only became widely known after being attacked by said wave of feminism. It absolutely did push to the top a bunch of edgy and shitty people that somehow became popular because people found comfort in someone trash talking horrible people calling themselves feminist. Said people have fallen off dramatically and are now seen as more vile than they once were because the worst of the feminist movement has essentially moved on to actually defending women against the modern day 'manosphere' which is overwhelmingly misogynistic and uses men's issues as a shield from critique rather than treating it as an important issue.
Third wave feminism was the embodiment of 'Women have very pressing and real struggles, however you can't solve those problems by hating men' and I'd wager the feelings you have towards the misogynistic manosphere are the same many of us had towards third wave feminism.
Where did I say anything close to that???? Ofc men have shit tons of problems, you'd have to be super ignorant or bigoted to deny that. MRA's don't give a shit about those problems. They just pay lip service to them as an excuse to decry feminists and often women in general bc they hate women and unknowingly contribute to the kinds of unhealthy masculinity that cause men a lot of the problems they face.
Most feminists aren't the screeching misandrist TERFs that are super loud and way too plentiful in a lot of spaces, though I'll admit I don't really call myself one anymore. Terfs kinda ruined the term for me by hijacking it as a guise for their transphobia. But most feminists want toxic masculinity to end, and for people to not have to conform to gender norms. Most feminists realize that men face a lot of issues, and those issues are societal and not inherent to having a dick