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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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It feels bland and basic, and I basically live to not be a basic girl. I want to be spicy and strong, not just like a girl who starts drama and complains like your average basic girl.
People have already called me basic IRL because I like Starbucks, I’m straight, and obsessed with TikTok.
Then try being legitimately interesting, rather than co-opting an identity that doesn't actually belong to you.
Also there's nothing wrong with "basic." Most of us are basic in some ways and interesting in other ways. Surely being straight and liking Starbucks and TikTok is not the sum total of who you are. Figure out the ways in which you're unique and interesting. If you don't think there are enough, then put the time into developing new hobbies. Personal growth is amazing. But don't lie about who you are. That's way worse than being basic.
ETA: I forgot to mention, based on this:
you should get your internalized misogyny figured out. Like, pronto.
We get it, the pull towards fitting in and homogeneity is strong, however, you can totally be gender nonconforming without needing to be trans. We suggest start changing up your style and attitude offline and see how it suits you! Start having a more diverse array of interests. Genuinely hope this helps!
It's genuinely okay to be basic. There's nothing wrong with it. Don't try and force yourself to be different when it's not authentic.
https://youtu.be/d1mbbYKPpHY
Edit: it also sounds like you may have some internalized misogyny, given how you view "average basic girls".
As others said, labels don’t make you interesting, being interesting does. Experiment with your identity on- and offline (as in your style, your pronouns, learned behaviours or otherwise). Also try to read/listen/watch more about trans experiences to learn how your feelings relate to trans people and why it’s harmful to appropriate trans culture. Wishing you had a penis can be considered queer and it’s definitely a feeling I’d explore more. Your statements do sound similar to what I used to say about myself before I realised I was transmasc.