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A lot going on, kinda need to let it out (lemmy.ca)
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So, like I said in my intro post, I’m pan but I’m technically sapphic and nonbinary.

I was in a NBLW (and open, so I’m allowed to date/have crushes outside of her) relationship with Natalia (19F), but it was long distance so we only talked through social media and texting.

Natalia has stopped answering my messages and overall just stopped being online as much, when she’s online, she doesn’t make time for me, just her friends. She says “Hi, how are you” or “Hi honey” once in a while if I’m in the group chat with her friends, but we barely talk one-on-one and I barely use the group chat.

She said she would check her messages more but hasn’t 😓

At first, her messages were screenshots to her friends of messages between AI bots. She would post romantic messages in her bio that she used to post with me, and acted super embarrassed when I asked her.

Now, all she does is play video games and her recent messages are just scheduling a time and game or gossip with her friend.

I think we’re basically broken up but I know if I “dared” to do so, she would slander me and call me an abuser/bad person for that just like last time.

On the other hand, I’ve been spending more time with Karl (18M), my friend who I kind of like. He called me cute yesterday, and I just found out that he’s pan (not straight). As an enby, this means I could have a chance with him 👀

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

call me an abuser/bad person for that just like last time.

That does not sound like a healthy relationship if this behavior has happened before.

Either way, communication is incredibly important in relationships and you feeling unsafe to tell your feelings is not good. You're allowed to have feelings, and sometimes people just don't work well together, so don't take comments about being a bad person to heart. By speaking up, you might end the relationship, or you might get started making things better, either seems better than doing nothing imo. Whatever you do, good luck on your future!