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submitted 2 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Are you not even trying to understand how toxic masculinity has forced men to shut up and swallow their feelings, has prevented them from pursuing passions for being "too girly"/not lucrative enough to provide for their family? How its pushed "strongman" narratives, and anything less than that is seen as "weaker/less than"? You cant see how male rape/abuse victims are treated differently than female rape/abuse victims?

Like, if you really cant open your eyes to how that may really affect someones mental health/quality of life, then I think you should do some work on learning empathy.

The 25 year old dude working at the gas station is not the reason the patriarchy is an issue. He's struggling along with the rest of us, and we're telling him he has nothing to complain about and has it easier. Thats not okay.

[+] [email protected] -14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes, men are the real victims of the patriarchy

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

The patriarchy is hierarchy. Like all hierarchies, it's pyramid shaped. It's not a rectangle with all men on top and all women in the bottom. It's a SMALL group of rich men oppressing everyone else. Sure MOST men are given more "power" than MOST women in the structure. That's the deal the small group of oppressors gave to keep their power. They also give power to strong women who toe the line. But the idea that most men aren't oppressed in the patriarchy is utterly ridiculous. You seriously think every man you see around you is secretly part of a cabal trying to keep you and other women down? You think that they have no problems, no burdensome expectations placed on them by the patriarchy to keep them in place? That they benefit from toxic masculinity instead of suffer by it? I'm sorry but you have a very dark view of 50% of the population if you think they're the oppressor class and you're in the victim class.

We're all victims of the patriarchy unless we're old rich white men. The only thing that separates us is the degree of victimisation.