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My point is that it is a universal issue, all while many people are trying very hard to represent it as women-specific.
When male voices are shushed both under their posts and under those focused on women, they don't have much of a platform to speak out. And they need it, too.
If all sides have an opportunity to say things without being interrupted, there is no point in chiming in and saying the other side has it worse.
As much as you may be right that both men and women are experiencing this, the post was talking about how women experience it. And when women speak out about it, it's apparently hard to talk about just that and instead the male experience has to be discussed as well.
Again, I really don't think you intended anything bad here. But as you said:
Women try to talk about it (e.g. via this topic), but you interrupted by chiming in how men are also affected. That might well be true, but it's also the kind of interruption that can be frustrating because, and I say this as a man, the experience women have is probably different (on average) from the experience men have.
You're not one of the voices in the comic shouting "misandrist" or anything, but it is a kind of "and what about the men?" type of statement. And I don't think you're trying to be dismissive here at all and I do believe your intentions are good, but the result here is that what women want to talk about is once again not talked about, which is what the comic is about.
Your well-intentioned statement I think perhaps unbeknownst to you is steering the discussion away from the intended topic. And it's exactly that problem that this comic addresses.
Right, but if I made a post about how "Men poop," and women came in to say "women poop too," it would make complete sense. Maybe we should be talking about how everybody poops and everyone's poop stinks at that, instead of "women's poop stinks, no men's poop stinks!"
We're not talking about basic biological functions here. We're talking about issues that men and women may experience differently. This example is apples to oranges.
Except it isn't though. Take cases like the last thread I can recall on lemmy that could have inspired this comic, the french protesting against that one guy who had people come rape his wife. The front facing image of that post was a woman holding a sign that says "not all men but always a man." What this sign should have said is "rape is bad," instead it pretended the two women who raped me don't exist and that I'm guilty by association of my genitals instead of a victim like them for going through the same thing they did. What's more, I'm told to shut up and let women speak at best, usually with one or two "well you must've liked it," or "what're you, gay?s" thrown in for good measure, yet the second you say a woman must've liked it or what is she a lesbian you're still the problem, can't beat em, can't join em. Even better, nobody says "shut up and let men speak," we say "stop generalizing us as abusers for having penises," and that is met with "shut up and let women speak."
I'm sorry that you're unable to parse metaphors, but everybody poops.