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[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

Edit: Whoops wrong comment! H/o.

Sure it's a blanket statement, so you're of the opinion I should be asking more strangers out in public then?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago

Don't start talking to them with the intent to ask them out. Just see if you can get their attention, see of you can find a little bit of common ground to build a conversation on, then, if they are receiving you well over the course of your conversation, say something like "hey, I enjoyed talking to you, would you mind meeting up some other time?" or something to that effect. This works best in places for socializing, bars, music venues, hobby spaces, etc. It can be applied to more formal places, just has to happen over a broader period of time, as you get to know your coworkers, or whatever.

The strong vibes of "my intent in talk to you is to have sex" is, often, what makes things uncomfortable. So, even if you can't find common ground, or the conversation went well and she turns you down, or gives some non-committal answer, and you part ways amicably, you will have not be seen as some creep.

[–] hex 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

It's possible to talk to random women without seeming intimidating. Always leave an easy out. Don't be pushy. Be casual. The thing people don't get is they try to just fish for numbers. Sometimes, just a compliment and never talking to her again is what you need.

But, the best way to meet new people for relationships is to meet new friends. Every person you meet opens a ton of opportunities for experiences and connections.