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[–] [email protected] 32 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (6 children)

Wait wait wait. Is the hearing all the conversations around you an ADHD thing? Are you serious? I just thought it was like, an ability.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Yes and no. It's not exclusive to ADHD.

The ADHD part of this is being unable or very bad at "tuning it out" so you can focus on something. Like, you recognise there's sound, but since it's not relevant to what you're focused on, you ignore it without thinking about the fact that you're ignoring it... That's what ADHD people are bad at.

It can be very helpful if you need to listen for specific sounds to survive. Like, if you were in the brush and you hear very specific crunching noises, the kind that you would hear if you were being stalked by a predator.... Someone with ADHD would be able to pick up on that more readily, while doing something else (like, idk, gathering), than someone who doesn't have ADHD.

IMO, a lot of ADHD traits provide advantages in specific scenarios, mainly related to crisis, conflict and survival, but those traits work against you for basically everything else.

My ADHD superpower is basically being situationally aware to the point at which it harms my ability to live. I almost always remember the most trivial details of places and situations that largely do not matter. I'll get called into a meeting for some hyper important project from my manager for client x, and that I should be working with person y at the client site to push forward. I will remember every detail of the plant on the managers desk, whether it was real or fake, was it in dirt or mulch or that foam stuff that they sometimes use for plants, was it recently watered (was the substance it was in, wet?), any oddly colored stripes in the stem/branches/leaves. How big was it, were there any issues with it, did it have any neighbors (other plants, maybe a fish?), even pictures nearby, etc...

Then I have to email my manager later to ask who y is, because I've forgotten the name.

This is my life.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 minutes ago

I don’t think I have ADHD, but I most likely have CPTSD, so I do this. Always listening to conversations and watching irrelevant shit and trying to predict where the danger will come from. It’s exhausting. I’m laying on my couch right now holding my newborn son while intrusive thoughts help me imagine the ways he might die. I fucking hate my father and will celebrate the day he dies.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 13 hours ago

So my Sherlock powers of observation are also ADHD?

Am I maladapted to modern society, or is modern society inhospitable to people with innate survival abilities?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

It's a curse

It puts my brain to 150% processing and I just wanna listen to one conversation and aaaaaa

Even when I can't listen to the dozens of voices due to them being nearly inaudible it still enables the part of my brain to try to decode them, so about 75% is used to try to listen to words that I don't even wanna listen to

This is why ANC is heaven

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

African National Congress is heaven?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

I can't do noise cancelling because then I get in my head about not being aware of my surroundings, and what if I needed to hear something in order to not die? Hey, it's possible.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 18 hours ago

Oh man. Mine actually is able to listen and understand each conversation. My brain will not only listen but mentally join that conversation. Lord help me if a few people in earshot are having technical problems with their phones or computers. I will literally pull my phone out in the middle of dinner with a friend and start finding the solution for multiple people's problems while my friend is like WTF, you were just telling me about your day and abruptly stopped talking and went into your phone.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 18 hours ago

It's an ability if you're a prehistoric hunter or in a dense jungle with predators. We have the ability to listen to everything and be able to process sounds, smell and visual changes.

Having dinner with a date and it's less of an "ability" and more of "you're being an unattentive asshole" because your date is just another conversation in a sea of conversations.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 18 hours ago

I just thought it was like, an ability.

For me, it's more a dis-ability as it makes it hard to concentrate on the conversation that I'm in or task that I'm doing.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago

In a way, it is...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

It's both, ADHD people just have a much, much harder time learning to filter it. But neurotypical people can learn to do it too sometimes. I envy the ability to turn it off