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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sorry for the late reply. I've had a busy few days.

I'm not saying there's natural/biological part to seeing some who is naked outside of culture norm to do so. What I'm saying is that decoupling your sexual desires from non sexual situations is beneficial not only for you but also for society. I'm advocating for a higher understanding of what it means to be human and respecting those despite what they look like or what they are wearing. Yes all within reason. Of course no one is arguing that you would knock a women out to SA (sexual assault.) her, but there are those that don't have that level of control. And those people use our ridiculous cultural ideas about nudity and sexuality to do such atrocities. Your stance is just the lesser form of, "what was she wearing?" "why was she in that environment, she should have known SA was a possibility." Just because a women is walking around naked/topless does not mean she wants to be objectified. (because once you boil someone down to an object, harming them becomes much easier.) Ya have that moment of nice tits, but don't mentally linger on it, ogle at her, or voice your desires to others. And if you see others doing the opposite chastise them. If you want to get so excited about boobs go on the internet, go to a strip club or reputable brothal, or get in a healthy relationship with someone that'll show you their's in a sexual manner. I fucking love women's boobs and ass, and love smashing may face into them during consensual activities. But I can also see a naked woman and not have the first thought be sexual.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Honestly, I must respectfully disagree. Personally, I still respect someone even if I want to have sex with them (or enjoy seeing them topless, as it were), in fact if we started getting to know eachother and found out I did not respect them, I would no longer find them attractive.

I further disagree in that I think simply looking at someone and being attracted isn't (or at least isn't necessarily,) objectification. I think there has to be a whole lot more at play than just "oh this girl looked at my abs while my shirt was off in public, she's objectifying me." Even if she said "oh look at that guy's abs" to a friend, I don't think it's crossed a line. Attraction isn't necessarily a problem, what's a problem is not taking no for an answer. Even if the first thought is sexual, so? Sex is natural, attraction is natural, it is what it is, just don't harass people.