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Fwiw, anyone giving you grief irl is a jerk, unless you're trying to convert them.
Away from the internet, I know a good handful of vegans that I gladly cook for. Not regions everyone hates y'all for living your beliefs.
And, just for full disclosure, I troll vegans online. That's where most of the jerks that are vegan do their thing, not irl.
Me and you, if life threw us together, I'd make you my vegan chili, and we'd chill. But I'd still troll you online if you did the usual online stuff that gets vegans painted as crazy.
Which is my best effort at saying that that's probably what you're missing. Even people like me that have no problems with the precepts of veganism per se, we can get tired of the vegans that take things too far, and then the entire belief system gets colored by that brush. It creates a general fatigue, then a general stereotype, and that turns into assholes going to vegan spaces and being assholes (as opposed to only doing it in other spaces). That in turn makes militant vegans go on the warpath, and you get stuff like this drama lol
It's a cycle of annoyance and limited perception. That cycle attracts the worst elements of humanity
Thank you for posting this. I know now that it was because of voting which is ehh not as bad as I thought. But yeah IRL my family and partner aren't very supportive, I've been trying to ignore their comments. It's just hard sometimes, like just last night my partner said they felt sorry for me during dinner because I didn't have meat in my meal. I think that's probably why some vegans become more aggressive online as well as the cycle going on. Idk I just like reading articles and seeing recipes. When I first went vegan my dad tried getting my whole family to convince me to eat meat again. I love my dad but that sucked. I also love my partner and they are otherwise fine, but they seem to have a problem and are adjusting to my new diet. I can understand the fatigue a vegan may go through, but banning people for voting isn't exactly what I had in mind as their rule 5.
I'm sorry you're running into such a degree of outright opposition. I never have understood that part, why someone that loves you would be persistent and nigh aggressive about something that's essentially not their business.
Somebody wants to make a change, move towards something they feel is better, you support that, even if you need to draw your own boundaries about it.
That would be exhausting to deal with for anyone, the opposition.
I kinda get where the mod is at, the way you describe the fatigue. I think it's better to step aside once your at that point, refresh yourself, maybe make a decision about that being a permanent break from trying to herd cats online or not. I've had to do the a few times over the years.
I'm sorry you went through that. It shapes us to have thicker skin, but it can also lead to bad outcomes depending on the friends and family involved.
Ed Winters talked about this on his channel recently. One of the biggest reasons people don't go vegan, and one of the biggest reasons pushing people away from the movement is the social dimension: living with people and still holding them as on your side when they very clearly violate your moral code. It's one of the hardest burdens of vegans, as I'm sure it can be for other minorities. Again, I'm not equating vegans to a minority group like LGBTQ or POC. The animals are the minority group. But when you have discrimination and sometimes segregation for specific groups in society, you can start to draw parallels.
Good luck with your vegan life from a fellow vegan 🤙