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So I know everyone is going to answer "yes", but I want actual real thoughts. I just want to know where I fit in.

I'm AMAB, and present as male, at least on the surface. I've always felt that was wrong though. But I don't necessarily think I'm a woman. I wish I was more feminine. And recently I started full body laser hair removal, and I have pretty long hair, and currently have my toe nails painted. But I also have a beard, and otherwise present totally as cis.

Am I "trans"? I don't feel "cis", but I feel like calling myself trans just isn't accurate and is inappropriate. Is there any other option?

And a complicating factor is that I'm basically only attracted to female presenting people. I see a lot of mtf trans people posting online "t4t". Would other trans people consider me "trans"?

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago

All labels are imperfect, I guess. That's the nature of labels: a shorthand for a complex reality.

I don't know if the "trans" label is or isn't a good shorthand for the complex reality of your identity. But the important thing is: your identity is valid and yours, regardless of what labels you stick on it.

If you feel that you are a woman, be that partially or completely, then congratulations, girl, there you go. Or maybe what you feel like switches back and forth depending on your mood, or maybe you exist somewhere in the middle. That's valid too. There are other labels worth exploring in that space, non-binary, genderfluid... I suppose the only really useful thing here is to work out which ones resonate with you as a suitable shorthand for who you are.

Oh and who you are attracted to is irrelevant. Lots of trans gals are lesbians. Doesn't make them any less trans.