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Fair-ish, but it's still just a public channel - even if you were invited into it.
Like you can right click a channel -> "Change Notifications" -> Nothing. Then
@Channel
or@Here
or even@'th3raid0r'
just stops working. And then mute the channel. Not more notifications from the channel. So that's not totally unignorable yetYou can leave a channel, but yea, that triggers a channel notification saying that you've left.
But yea, I don't know to which degree they were 'hunting you down'. At some point it's seems fine to put your foot down.
I probably would have approached that a bit differently though - on one hand, less hostile, like of name calling them an "ableist" -
And on the other hand, even less compliant and requesting to not participate. I wouldn't really phrase it as a request. If you've been ignoring them so far, and they DM you, wait half an hour to respond and just somewhat politely decline and say "yea, I'm not gonna do that." - and then continue to ignore them some more. By requesting it and asking for accommodations you're already way too far into accepting it as your problem
As long as it's becoming loads of work for them to even get close to anything compliant, the more likely they'll just give up on it