It's not a label im making up. Toxic here is a synonym for unhealthy. If someone keeps calling you, interrupting you, micromanaging you, disrespecting your working hours or your focus times, that's an unhealthy relationship.

Stacy is entitled to regular details, sure. That's why we have tickets, and daylies and retros. She's not entitled to asking multiple times day if you're done yet.

I work above senior, have done management and tech lead. I've seen toxic workplaces, and I've seen good ones. I recognize the need for all the agile rituals. But that still doesn't entitle people to call all the time and interrupt you.