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Autism rule (midwest.social)

submitted 5 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 123 points 5 months ago (3 children)

*explains concept normally*
"Why are you being so vague?"
*explains concept thoroughly and precisely*
"Don't talk to me like I'm an idiot!"

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Oh my fucking god, this. Why are people like this?

"I have no idea what you're talking about"

"Why are you mansplaining??" In 6 seconds...

[–] [email protected] 18 points 5 months ago (1 children)

People can, and will be dicks, who get embarrassed about not understanding shit and try to find blame elsewhere for their embarrassment.

Still, there is an important skill when teaching someone something, of understanding approximately how much they know, and telling them approximately the parts they don't, leaving them to ask you questions to fill the gaps afterwards. Makes teaching really fast when done right.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Well now you tell me... ;)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Not to get meta, but I don't understand the implied joke 🙃

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I had something like this when I was working retail during the pandemic.

Customer: Why are you wearing a mask???

M: It's policy. And I like having my face covered because I'm trans.

C: *visibly confused* ....what? Nobody else is wearing one.

M: Right, but I'm trans, so I like having the masculine parts of my face obscured by a mask.

C: ...wha- I don't care!?

##then why did you ask 🙂

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

I always try to ask people if they're familiar with X. Then, if they lie to me, they can only come clean or nod along

Or if I really want to talk about the topic, I ask how much they know about X

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Also the "I think A"

"Oh so you think B?"

...no?

Had a whole argument once about capitalism v/s socialism only because I stated that, while neither is desireable, if I HAD to choose, I would rather live in the States than in Russia. Somehow that must have meant that I love the US and it is doing nothing wrong in my view but they are wrong because capitalism etc etc and I was just standing there like "...I literally did NOT say anything to do with that." And then they had the gall to claim that I am the one blowing up arguments. Yeah right.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago

I had a lot of that interaction with my mother before I figured out her algorithm. She'd ask about her cooking, "do you prefer food-A or food-B?" and if I gave a straight answer, I wouldn't see the other option for years. Then when someone brought it up later, she'd go "I thought you didn't like it".

Later on I learned to explain my preference as a ratio between A and B. I know she meant well, but bless her heart, she's neurotypical.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

"How dare you teach me things against my will."