Area for discussion of the gender, disability, and politics of the user DroneRights. Also, compilation of bigotry directed their way from elsewhere in the fediverse.
I made peace with someone! In the past, LinkOpensChest and I had quite the aggressive tussle over whether communists should vote for biden in the general election. Proof:
If you're interested in fighting, you can go find that conversation yourself and see the full context. But this post is about positive change, which is that us two are no longer fighting! Now I just have to do the same with everyone else who has a problem with me.
A lemmy.dbzer0.com admin by the handle of Unruffled, actual username @[email protected], posted an ableist comment today in relation to a ban decision.
Unruffled's explanation for the ban is that people with narcissistic personality disorder are not a victimised demographic, and that when pwNPD claim to be marginalised, this is an abuse tactic.
Wikipedia says on its page for NPD:
It is often comorbid with other mental disorders and associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability.[1]
People with NPD are significantly functionally impaired, and psychosocially disabled. I could bring up a half dozen corroborating sources, but I'll skip that for now.
Now, the fact that people with the disability known as NPD suffer unfair hatred shouldn't be a controversial statement. A great example is the stereotype that pwNPD are abusive, and everything they do is a manipulation. This stereotype is massively damaging. In fact, if you have NPD and you look to Google for resources on dealing with your disability and improving your mental health, the first result you'll get is sources on how you're an evil abuser and resources for people who've been abused by you.
This is a significant barrier to treatment. In addition to the physical difficulty of finding resources by sifting through the hate, it can provoke feelings of shame and defensiveness, and drive people to avoid or distrust all online resources about their disability. And, like autism, a lot of the disability of NPD comes from other people's intolerance. The idea that we're all abusers primes people to see and choose aggression when dealing with us. It starts fights, it gets people hurt, it turns out lives into one big punching match.
The fact Unruffled engaged in this counterfactual stereotype while denying basic medical facts about a disability is troubling. It's my opinion that db0 should have a long conversation with Unruffled about sensitivity towards disabled people. Ideally, Unruffled would come away feeling ashamed of their behaviour and with a resolution to do better. But in the event Unruffled is unruffled by the conversation and unwilling to improve their behaviour, they should be banned from lemmy.dbzer0.com immediately for clear hate.
https://lemm.ee/post/20863783?scrollToComments=true
Stamets just posted a meme complaining about the fact women think they have unrealistic body image to meet, in comparion with men. Stamets thinks the mean women are wrong to make light of men's problems with constantly being told they're ugly by the media. Because Stamets is a misogynist.
https://lemmy.world/comment/6513421
@[email protected] is a horrible person. Today we're going to ignore his lesbophobia and transphobia and focus on this comment here, where he calls me a slur, and claims I've been banned from every major instance for being disabled.
First off: Stamets is a bad-faith liar. I have never been banned from lemm.ee. And I have never been banned from anywhere for any kind of hate.
Second off: Stamets is correct to say I've been banned from some instances for being disabled, but the fact he's gleeful about this is because he's an ableist.
Third off: Stamets is terrible at spelling. DroneRights only has one S in it. The reason Stamets seems illiterate is that he's too busy orgasming at the thought of calling me a slur to pay attention.
Fourth off: Slurs are bad. I have narcissistic personality disorder. It's a mental disorder. It's a disability. Stamets knows I have it. He intends to insult me by calling me mentally disordered. He doesn't say "You're a person with NPD", because that makes it sound bad to discriminate against me. He uses the shortened form of my disability, the N slur, in the same way he might call a person with autism an a*tist, or a person with intellectual disability (AKA mental retardation) a r*tard.
He means to insult me for being disabled, because he hates disabled people. He is willing to lie as much as it takes to hurt a disabled person for being disabled.
https://hexbear.net/comment/4450879
My alts @[email protected] and @[email protected] were recently banned from Hexbear due to a conversation I sockpuppeted them through. My close friend @[email protected] was not banned, but did have her comment removed for saying she wished I hadn't been banned. According to the mods, Ashina was "relitigating old struggle session and general meta drama" by simply expressing that she liked me, without any call to action or confrontation with anyone. Apparently, just saying she liked me was against the rules. As we all know, I was banned from Hexbear for saying gender neutral pronouns exist and whiteness is a social construct, so this is a further escalation from the Hexbear admins into attacking even simple association with leftist figures.
An anonymous admin on Beehaw banned me for being "pompous". In both my comments I was being fully cooperative and doing whatever the other person wanted me to do. However, the symptoms of my narcissistic personality disorder were visible in the way I spoke. I was visibly narcissistic. My symptoms didn't affect my behaviour or how I treated others, they were just cosmetic. And the verdict from the Beehaw admins is that visibly having NPD is unacceptable. I think this isn't nice, and I think it discourages diversity.
Of note, we’ve never banned a single person without openly discussing what happened with other individuals who participate in this community1 and asking for their input. We can’t promise this will always be the case, but we can promise that we’ll be open to having a discussion with any community member who feels that something unjust happened with another person or to themselves.
This excerpt is in the page "Beehaw is a community", and it shouldn't be. It's not true anymore.
What is Expected of Community Moderators?
Encourage and promote respectful and constructive discussions, and address any behaviour that goes against our community’s spirit to be(e) nice.
Assist people by answering their questions, offering guidance, and helping them navigate the platform effectively, ensuring they feel heard.
Deleting the thread in which this happened and all records of it on the site doesn't promote constructive discussions. Making it against the rules to tell someone they made a mistake doesn't promote constructive discussions. Telling a disabled person the way they talk is pompous and unacceptable doesn't promote respectful discussions. Banning someone who asks clarification on what they should say doesn't address their behaviour, it doesn't offer guidance, it doesn't answer their questions or help them navigate the platform, and it doesn't make anyone feel heard.
Assume good faith
I treat other Beeple with good faith, even when I think they are not responding to me in kind, unless they are unequivocally advocating for hate or intolerance of fellow humans.
I give others the benefit of a doubt when I read their posts/comments, I assume good intent and give others the opportunity to save face/clarify.
And there was no part of this treatment that treated me with good faith, or gave me the opportunity to save face or clarify. I say there's nothing wrong with making mistakes and I had every intention of doing as I was asked, the admin tells me to shut up and go away.
When the fuck did we collectively decide as a society that genders need sources?
Transphobes think that bees have telepathy. Like the Zerg in Starcraft. They think that bees literally actually share thoughts and have no individual will like in science fiction. They think there's a "psychic lobe" in the bee brain that causes telepathy. They're not very good at science, and they don't know that bees communicate through dance. They think it's telepathy.
How am I so certain that transphobes believe in magic bees? Because they argue very vehemently that humans cannot be swarmgender like bees are, because humans lack the physiological requirements to form a hivemind. They are referring, of course, to the fact that humans don't have magic powers. Because they think bees do.
@[email protected] commented on a thread about me to say I'm faking my gender. Kool Newt, if you're going to harass me, I prefer that you do it to my face. You say I'm faking being swarmgender, and now I want to hear you finish misgendering me. Pick a gender and call me it. Let's see if your moral compass will stop you from being blatantly transphobic, or if you're bigoted enough to finish what you started.
@[email protected] came to a thread attacking me to voice a controversial opinion: Since being nonbinary entitles me to avoid all the discrimination levelled against real trans people, I ought to be bullied into no longer identifing as trans, transtrender that I am. I would like to thank them for this genius solution. I never thought that we could solve bullying by just bullying more people! What a stroke of brilliance!
Just kidding, Poggervania is a blatant transphobe who openly advocates harassing and attacking trans people for kicks.
For those not in the know, "TexMexBazooka" is the alt account of popular startrek.website user Stamets, who felt the need to personally attack, demean, and subtweet at me for being nonbinary over the past two days.
@[email protected] responded to a meme about swarmgenders to call me a troll for being nonbinary. Out of curiosity, I tried an experiment, and asked if there are any xenogenders they respect. They responded by saying it's "over the line" of made up specialist [sic] snowflake shit.
Make no mistake: This is the average view of people who yell about how xenogender people are "trolls".
