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I am struggling a bit to word the question so I'll explain my thought process a bit.

I was thinking about Back to the Future style time travel where someone goes back in time, makes alterations to the past, and returns to a different life around the time they left but without actually acquiring the memories of their new life. Most of the time this happens at the end of the movie or series and they're depicted only slightly confused but the viewer is given the impression they'll integrate just fine. I'm wondering what's out there for media where the conclusion of the protagonist's adventures with time travel is just the beginning and the protagonist now has to struggle to make sense of everything.

Even with the short time loop/do-over premise that's in movies like Palm Springs, Groundhog Day, and Omni Loop I feel like it could be difficult to interact with people afterwards. I imagine knowing everything about someone and having them regard you as a stranger would be frustrating and overwhelming.

From what I've seen the premise seems a bit under explored.

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Maybe it's just a reddit/Threadiverse thing, maybe it's stronger in political communities, but I constantly see sarcasm everywhere online, far more than anywhere else. Scroll down and you'll even see it here.

Funnily enough, in a vacuum, one might expect online forums to avoid it more, since written text can mask tone and make sarcasm unintentionally ambiguous, to the point where it's common to see people adding tags to clarify. It's not rare to see arguments started when people don't recognise non-literal language.

Is it merely a habit being repeated? Is it a widespread coping mechanism for frustration? Is it simply the lowest form of wit, a simple and popular way to make fun? Is it an effective way to normalise unpopular views with the plausible deniability of just making jokes?

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Kobo Clara BW VS newest paperwhite VS smth less popular but still good. Not interested in color. Libra 2 seems very interesting but very hard to find.

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Mine was probably when I relapsed towards religion at age 15-16 and joined my mom's conservative megachurch, naïvely thinking I can convince them to be less bigoted and more "christ-like" as well as accept science

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Cyberdyne Systems, Wayland-Yutani Corporation, Tyrell Corporation, or Arasaka Corporation? Something else?

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Alright, so, something I've been talking about with my therapist a lot, but I thoughts folks out here could have interesting povs.

To sum it up, I'm constantly trying to act like a saint (figuratively, I'm an atheist). There's one exception to this, people holding power and making others miserable in any way.

But basically, you know, this whole mentality of banishing anger, jealousy, egoism, selfishness, greed, desire for power and authority and all that? That's me.

I don't mean I manage to do so constantly, but that's what I strive for.

One could think, and I did think, it was a desire for social praise. But really, when I get praised, which happen a lot, I don't care and that's more awkward that anything (like : woa dude, it's not the Oscars or something, chill out). And little by little, I started to think it didn't have much to do with being praised, that's just striving to live as I think it's better to live. To live a life I'll me content with when the grim reaper will come and all praises won't mean anything anymore.

My therapist thinks it's not really an issue as long as it doesn't cause myself pain (which it does because I'm deaf to my own needs 50% of the times).

But I don't see a satisfying way to live apart from that.

One potential misinterpretation I'd like to prevent. It's a very strong drive, but it doesn't make me blind. It really doesn't happen a lot but whenever I'm angry, I'm not feeling guilty. I know why I feel this, it's just that I didn't have any other way to manage a situation/feeling. I'll just strive to do better next time by trying to modify the situation so that anger will not be the most probable answer.

Do you find it weird? Anyone adopting this kind of behavior? Maybe everyone does. It may sound a bit megalomaniac, like hey I'm exceptional, but it really isn't what I mean. To my own eyes, I'm not a bad or a good person. I'm just trying to be what I want. If somebody tries to be someone different, it's all fine by me.

TL;DR : Is having high moral standards for one's self weird or toxic? Does my message actually sound megalomaniac?

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I don't own decorations of any kind for any holiday. I live alone and I don't really celebrate much of anything. So my questions are:

  1. Do you decorate your home, office, automobile, etc. at all?
  2. If so which holidays?
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I’ve always ment for it to be helpful, but I can see it being read rude or passive aggressive. Thank you in advance for your time and your thoughts!

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Our university is hosting an AI summit with a student panel, a faculty panel, and attendee participation segments. It would be great to get panel questions, but we really need multiple choice, strongly agree/disagree, and yes/no style clicker questions for the attendees. Remembering they are primarily non-technical, with a wide range of exposure to the topic, what would you ask the crowd?

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Lots of people are feeling hopeless and upset right now, and for good reason. It's normal to feel like no matter what you do, things are going to get much worse for a lot of people. Blame, despair and anger are natural reactions, but as the shock of the situation dulls, what's your plan going forward?

Call me naive, but seeing hate have a resurgence makes me want to do more to help the people that are going to suffer the most. I'm going to make a plan to volunteer more of my time and resources to help organizations that need it. I'm going to see if my friends can organize with me to sponsor a migrant family. I may not be able to do much, but my personal way of coping with shitty situations is to try to make the world a little less shitty.

I'm going to try to be kinder and more forgiving with people, and be a better role model for my kids. And I'm going to resist and fight back against hate when I see it.

Lastly, I'm going to be a more supportive friend to the people in my life. And to anyone reading this that feels like this world's gone insane, and you're all alone: you're not. We're still in this together, and I appreciate everything you're doing.

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How do you "Do as as I say, not as I do"?

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One of my friends just attempted suicide like 30 minutes ago. Thankfully he's alive (I know bc he texted in the gc, and he didn't say it like a joke) but I'm not really sure what to do. I told him I'm free to talk if he needs to (I am not able to go see him in person) and another friend who lives near him said about the same. We also had another mutual friend commit suicide not that long ago. What do I do?

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cross-posted from: https://feddit.uk/post/19668588

I want to invest in some crypto, I know that this requieres ID verification usually. Is https://www.kraken.com/ a good website for investing? Because I don't really want to send my ID to some dudes on the internet. Thank you

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If you used Reddit for a while then you prob know that you can modmail moderators of subredit and contact them. But in Lemmy there is no modmail and how you can contact moderators of Lemmy community (not admins)?

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If I could only learn one additional language, and I wanted to travel the world, what language would serve me best other than English or Spanish?

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Recently started using mail merge.
Combined it with some vba scripting(didn't learn it well, just found some scripts on the net and modified them a bit) so that I could get pdf files for emailing by clicking a macro button from an excel sheet.

Also, go to use the info about the keyboard mouse right click button when someone's Right Mouse Button was not working. https://www.online-tech-tips.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/Windows-Right-Click-Button.jpg

I mentioned only computer things because of recency, but please do share your experiences in other topics too.

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A general outline would suffice, just trying to get a sense of the scale

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For me, a few come to mind:

  • "You're imagining everybody in this story way more attractive than they actually were."

It was posted somewhere on one of those spicy subreddits under some affair threesome story. And it sort if clicked with me. Like look around, normal people on the street don't all look like supermodels. And supermodels don't lurk around in reddit comment sections. It really put things into perspective for me.

  • "Life isn't short, it's the longest thing you'll ever do."

It is a bit uplifting to realize that no matter if you have bad or good period in your life, it is only a short chapter contained in the longest time period possible for you to experience.

There were a few others that I probably can't remember of the top of my head right now.

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I know we're all feeling doom and gloom but can we get a thread of some wins/good news from last night?

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