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Is queer an equivalent substitute for lgbtq(...)+? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hello!

I am new here, and new to the LGBT community in general. Around 6-7 weeks ago I realized I was trans(htf do you make it to 30 and not realize?)

In talking to my therapist, they said they(belonging to the community themselves) like to use queer as shorthand since it includes everyone and isn't an unending acronym that is constantly getting new letters. I also like that and would use it, but being new, I'm not sure how others who've been here longer feel.

Are they equivalent?

I don't like how the acronym keeps changing and accidentally leaving out a letter could be taken as an intentional slight.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I use queer as short for genderqueer, but I use gay as short for lgbtq (minus the ia+ in this case) and I do respect and understand if someone does the opposite and uses queer as the blanket term for lgbtqia+, that's fine. When I was growing up and it was LGBT, queer was usually conaidered an insult (as kids we played Smear the Queer, which probably helped me come out of the closet tbh) But it's literally in the acronym now. It's not a hateful word, but could be used hatefully on a rare occasion.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I was in college (huge transphobe) and had a gender studies major sit me and some other students down for a 1.5 hour lesson

To my knowledge, queer can be used as a blanket term for "not-cis but it's none of your fucking business." At least this is how I use it anyway

Edit: The term might also help reduce violence against the lgbt. The current issue with cons and some libs is that they seem to think it's alllllllllllll about talking about sex. A term like queer implies but doesn't explicitly give details. Should they feel comfortable being fully out? 100%. Is that the safest move in the American christofascist-hellscape? Likely not yet :(

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I think because so much of it is sex-adjacent, they feel like you already brought that up as part of it instead of seeing multiple components of a topic. Definitely, they don't think about it as much as we do so it's a very different in their minds

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I use queer when referring to a bunch of different sexual or gendered people (eg, some bi people, lesbians, an asexual person, etc etc). I use LGBT+ or simply LGBT when in contexts that include audiences of all orientations including straight, to not create confusion. LGBT+ includes everyone without being excessive imo. The only ones I see doing more than 4-5 chars anyways are usually straight or straight-facing entities (eg, groups, news stations, etc) referring to us as an entire collective. To me, going for 7+ chars in an article feels kinda like unintentional pinkwashing, but maybe that's just me x3

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