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Interesting problem here. So I self host jellyfin, happy to share my (owned) movies with my family. Well, my mother has asked me to digitize her collection too and have me host it. Originally, fine, you give your movies to me, I host them, same thing.

However, what I didn't bet on was the amount of garbage, terrible movies she would give me. There's a few that are fine, but the vast majority are, well I'll just put it bluntly, christian propaganda. I don't think any of them are as terrible as some of the worst case, but think "My life was horrible until I found god now look and see how fulfilled I am" type propaganda - and they make for horrible plots. Left Behind with Kirk Cameron is a good example. Even removing the blatent boring christian plots - it's just a horribly made movie. Cheap, not thought out well, and honestly I read the book decades ago, it's a horrible adaptation too.

Not that I keep only top tier movies in my libraries, but these are, well they just bring a pit to my stomach.

What would you do in my situation? (And I'm going to go ahead and say the pure atheist comments aren't needed, yes of course I could burn them, or dance around them, but I'm not looking to just burn the bridge between my mother and myself over a lifetime of her indoctrination and bad taste in movies). I'm more looking for generic, how do you handle your users asking you to put content you don't find appealing on your server?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Whenever people ask me to put up right wing propaganda type shit I just say I can't find it

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

This was gonna be my suggestion as well.

I also go in and prune the library every so often to get rid of my sister in law's trashy reality TV shows.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

It's my library. I only approve shit that I want to be on there.

My users know this (including family). If they want to be picky they can run their own shit. I've denied plenty before.

An alternative answer is to "approve" it in overseerr, but remove the request in radarr. Or setup a blacklist for the name. Then just say that the tools can't find the movie, nothing you can do about it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I would be sincere:

Movies take too many space in SSD and too many resources to host, therefore I'm not going to host movies I disagree with. And if she really want this movies to be digitalized, I would give her a choice to buy new hardware (probably SSD) to be dedicated to her.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

You rip them and provide them to a community that will then re-dub them into something fun. Hilarity ensues.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

If you agreed to host her collection carte blanche, that's your failure to manage expectations.

The better approach would have been to make an X GB partition (whatever you're comfortable allocating) say there's a specific amount of space available for family use. When it fills up it fills up.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Just explain your reason why you don't allowed it or give her your recommendation movie that similary with her movies

[–] ericjmorey 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

You can use this as an opportunity to have a conversation about what it is about those movies that she likes. This could open up to a larger conversation where you can connect and grow your relationship as mother and child. Or she might just say something vague and simple and you can ignore the movies while they sit in a separate library.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

"Sorry, disc must be scratched"

[–] [email protected] -3 points 6 months ago

I usually just say " odd, i cant seem to find that one"

[–] [email protected] -3 points 6 months ago

Christian propaganda? Destroy it and hide the evidence.

The less of that evil in the world, the better.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Well, my mother has asked me to digitize her collection too and have me host it. Originally, fine, you give your movies to me, I host them, same thing.

Did your mom buy your computer and hard drives? I doubt it. You spent your own money, right? So she's giving you a whole bunch of stuff which is consuming your space. Quote out the cost of buying components for a separate server for her with her own drives. When she buys the parts, build her her own server and put her stuff on it.

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