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The dating pool (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 9 months ago (28 children)

I thought the last one was just conservatives making stuff up until I joined Lemmy.
Don't get me wrong, the woman in the tweet is awful, especially the part about hating men who dare to have emotions, but I'm responding purely to the last thing on this list.
A lot of Lemmy users seem to think all they need to do to be immune to misogyny is to be leftist. It's just been getting real tiring for me browsing this site seeing men be praised for things they at the same time put women down for. Not that men shouldn't be praised for these things, but the double standard here is immense.
The major one I've noticed is putting down women for having a preference on height or even dick size, but men are allowed to only want big boobs or petite women because it's "a natural expression of human sexuality."
There's also that I've seen several times men on here complaining when women are given safe spaces and resources specifically for them, like job fairs and such, and the comments being filled with how it should have been open to men as well because not doing so is sexist, meanwhile being totally ok and even ecstatic when a resource is opened specifically for men.

Like, I'm trans. I've lived on the other side of the coin. I'm glad men around here have a safe space to display their frustrations and discuss men's issues that in most places you'd be crucified for even mentioning. I just wish this could be a safe space for both genders, not just the one who holds the majority. There are a lot of times I feel straight up unwelcome on Lemmy simply because I'm a women.

[+] [email protected] -9 points 9 months ago (10 children)

The major one I’ve noticed is putting down women for having a preference on height or even dick size, but men are allowed to only want big boobs or petite women because it’s “a natural expression of human sexuality.”

That's not the way I remember it. I remember being told that men having or expressing physical preferences in women was a terrible thing to do, being called a sexist, shallow pig, etc. This has been a female talking point basically my entire life. Then I remember being rejected for being 5'7". You know how we live in a world with 5 websites, each one is full of pictures of the other 4? I think I saw a Facebook post of a Tweet on Reddit that said [woman]: Grey sweatpants are for men with DICK, not men with peepee. [man]: But if I said tight jeans are for girls with ass, not long backs, I'd be the asshole.

I find that level of sheer hypocrisy is pretty effective at eroding my capacity for empathy.

Want another example? How about this cycle:

How dare men rely on only their romantic partners for emotional support. Men should support each other goddess dammit!
Men create spaces to gather and share activities. -- If activity is not socially acceptable, I'll use the example of tabletop gaming in the 80's and 90's: "EWW look at the nerds and their pathetic nerd shit! Get lost, losers!" -- If activity is or becomes socially acceptable, and especially if it starts building money or prestige, I'll use the example of video games in the 2000's and 2010's: "This environment isn't suitable for women! I demand you change it to accommodate my needs and tastes."
Why the fuck don't men make and keep friendships with other men? I just don't fucking get it.

And for some reason they expect me to automatically give a damn when the Republicans take their rights away?

Women are very vocal about not being on my side. So guess what? I'm not on theirs. Gasp.

If you feel unwelcome on Lemmy just for being a woman, as far as I'm concerned you can go somewhere else.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

You’re talking about the most shallow, vapid women out there. The women i’ve met have generally never talked like that. So no, you don’t get a pass to hate on women just because you saw some FB memes that hurt your fee fees…

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