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Why do hardly any straight men write about sex and dating? (www.theguardian.com)

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 10 months ago (5 children)

Do I think a trailblazing men’s dating column is going to suddenly solve the so-called crisis in male emotional communication? No.

This is really interesting considering the points they bring up in the article. This one in particular:

“If it’s going well, it comes off braggy and vulgar, and if it’s going poorly, stop whinging in print.”

Men attempting to communicate their experiences are immediately judged for it. Here's another one:

“Paradoxically, the sort of men who have the insight and sensitivity to write well about that experience preclude themselves from doing it exactly because of the sensitivity and awareness that would make their writing insightful,”

So male sensitivity and awareness means men not talking about things? That doesn't sound healthy.

I think a good model for a dating community would be the /r/daddit subreddit. Here's men communicating emotions in a male-oriented space, getting helpful support and feedback from a welcoming community. Another great one for this was /r/bigdickproblems. Aside from the pervs asking for dick pics in DMs it was full of helpful advice about sex.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

BDP was interesting like ten years ago, then it went to center on not bragging/bragging and even shaming. Well that was what I felt anyways.

It's like being tall, can't complain without acknowledge you're lucky being tall (so the actual problem just goes out the window).

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