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Depends on how strictly you want to define asexuality, some people will say yes. From what you're saying, I don't think you are.
For most women sex isn't enjoyable unless they are in love with their partner and feel safe+cared for. Only a small minority of women enjoy casual sex with strangers all the same. The frequency and quality of orgasms is very dependent on this.
For men it's the opposite way around. Most will enjoy casual sex, only a minority doesn't. Love+ feeling safe is a factor too, but it's less of a difference.
It all depends on what hormones you have flowing through your veins.
So I'm guessing it was just bad relationship. Or another possibility is bad sexual health, which is also very common these days (mostly because of cardiometabolic health).
If you want to find someone to care for you, you have to signal that you appreciate being cared for and reciprocate. Most people today fail at either of these steps, it is especially hard for people with trauma.
I'm sorry, but it feels like you're reducing sexuality almost entirely down to nothing more than biology, when it's so much more complicated than that.