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Or women could just lower their standards if they don't think anyone is good enough for them. That's basically what men have been told for ages, that women don't need to go about changing themselves to meet the standards of men. Surely the same operates in reverse, no? If women don't like their prospects, they can either lower their bar or stay single since men don't need to change themselves to please women?
The standard doesn't necessarily apply in reverse if you look at how the work is split between male and female partners in hetero relationships - it's often skewed that the woman does a lot more emotional work, household work, and childcare, on top of also having full time jobs. I think you're right though, if men aren't meeting women's standards, then women should either be content to be single, hook up with other women (for those who would prefer), or reexamine how important romantic relationships are for them.
I take issue with the part that is bold and italisied. Not sure what you are saying, but it seems like a gross misunderstanding how people work.
Obviously that part only applies to people who are bisexual/pansexual/gay. I'm not saying that hetero women should just become gay >.< Though I realize it sounds like that, it isn't what I meant.