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In general, I consider myself fairly open-minded, I have no issues with the LGBTQ+ community and find it infuriating that the Trans community especially is being targeted by Republicans. It’s obvious they’re being made into scapegoats to get Republican voters to the polls. They’re exploiting people’s misunderstandings and fear for political gain.
HOWEVER, I think the Trans community is its own worst enemy at times, due to their excessively heavy-handed tactics online and this constant drumbeat of accusing anything under the sun as being transphobic, no matter the actual intent. There’s no attempt to educate or help people understand, it’s just bringing the ban hammer, reporting transphobia, accusing people of bigotry, for relatively mild and innocuous comments or actions.
This situation could’ve been resolved by somebody just saying, “Hey that term ‘tranny’ is offensive, you shouldn’t say that,” to which the poster would’ve responded with their background and everyone would realize it was just a joke from someone who was obviously not a bigot. The country is still coming to terms with the Trans community “entering the mainstream”, it’s all new and not everyone knows what’s acceptable (poster probably should’ve known, but probably thought people would know him better). I get that they’re under attack, but the Trans community could afford to chill out online and not go on the attack at the slightest perceived provocation, else they’re gonna start turning people against them.
imo, I can totally understand parts of the trans community not wanting to have to teach people to respect them (people not respecting you as a person by default fucking sucks, and it's understandable that you'd find it not worth your energy and fucking ridiculous that you have to teach people that you're a person)
so, I can see why OP got immediately banned, especially since they legit said a slur in a shit joke that, with said slur, could have come off as weirdly fetishizing; many people in marginalized communities don't really like having to go through someone's post that comes off bigoted to "figure out if they meant to say something bigoted on purpose or in a bad way" for obvious reasons
hopefully OP realized why they blacklisted them so quickly
Another trap one can easily fall to even for just being friendly
If you're gonna accuse someone of something, then yes you better make some effort to be reasonably sure. This is the other side of vigilantism people don't like hearing about - accusing everyone of being evil and making everyone just walk on tiptoes around you isn't really the outcome you want, it will eventually come around and bite you in the ass.
Reporting everything and leaving the police/mods sort it out only works if those police/mods aren't overly trigger-happy to shoot you on sight.