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How would one approach discussing toxic positivity with a friend?
She can't get any dates or maintain other friendships because of this personality she's adopted, everyone can see right through it and she comes across as annoying at best, and like psycho delusional at worst, doesn't help that she's 30, stacking shelves, thinking she gonna meet a guy of her dreams at work, refuses to use dating apps because she thinks herself above them and might actually be thinking she's gonna make it in the music industry after a few singing lessons.
She also spams random anime shit, but when I try to connect that way as I used to be a weeb back in the day, she's never even seen any classics, just no-name seasonal moeshit.
You never address the real issue with a friend if there's any risk of them misinterpreting it and taking it overly personally to the point of ruining your friend dynamic. I would say instead of confronting them about their toxic positivity, start introducing them to more healthy activities. Invite them out to things more frequently. Get them out of their insular environment and interacting with people IRL. I would start with that, see how they come around.
Yeah it's tough though because I don't want to accidentally reinforce the toxic positivity personality.