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To be honest I feel like just being simply honest should work. "Hello, I think I like you. Would you like to get tea together or go for a walk in the park and get to know each other?" But then again I'm a shut in with anxiety and little to no understanding of humans so I don't know.
Agreed!! Tho it’s not quite my speed. I once slipped someone a note with my number on the train because saying that out loud in a crowded public space makes me want to turn inside out. It was cute, they reached out and we went on a sort of date, and settled at friends. I’ve done similar a couple times since and it’s always been positive.
I feel like getting handed a ripped off piece of someone’s bookmark or something with their name and number is very disarming. It gives agency to the person being approached, which I think makes the whole interaction much less weird than you’d think. For a hot sec I thought about making a business card style thing, but I think that makes it weird again. Takes the “meet cute” vibe out of it when you seem over prepared for the occasion.
Worth noting I like to include my age if I do this, as I look quite young for almost 30 (I blame the HRT lol) and I just want people to have that detail before they choose to reach out or not.
Oh also the original post would 1000% work on me.
I feel like this might the best option for shy or anxious people, you can't mess up talking cuz you don't talk and also puts no pressure on the other person to respond right away. Might try this actually but I feel like I would mess up even just handing over piece of paper to someone or look weird.
Me tooooo!! I literally just stuck my hand out with the note and looked at my feet lol. I like to think that awkwardness further helped diffuse things a bit. Like if someone sort of aggressively handed me a piece of paper while holding strong eye contact I would be waaayyy more creeped out than someone that’s doing it a bit shyly/awkwardly.