My kid , 4 year old. She repeats some patterns in my life.
I was good with maths, science, books but was dumb/stupid for day-to-day interactions with other persons and lacked common sense . I am not an introvert and want to company with huge number of people around me. But I miss the sense in people talk, my replies will be foolish. And, do things ( like : gym ) in artificial/goofy ways - my default facial expression was embarrassment.
This pulled me back and I lived with books, cinema etc. And my friends are either similar persons or persons who can tolerate(?) me. I do joke to them that I only have few friends . The number is 4+3 and the answer is 6 ( last one being myself )
Now, my kid behaves similarly . She is good at studies, but lacks sense and do things in stupid ways. She wants to be friend with kids. From what I understood, she has one friend only and others are not ok with her.
My innermost feeling is that even if she is having stupidity/lack of sense, she should be friends with same age kids.
My Qns are:
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She is concerned with the not-loved-by-others situation. She sometimes cry that kids said H ( hate ) to her. How to help her. Can I simply say your dad faced similar situations ( I do remember feeling what's the issue with me at many places, why they do not like me, and crying )
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How can I tell the world is not fare. And if she did not get friends here, she could find soulmates somewhere else.
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I think she is not a listener-type and keep talking what's in her mind at that moment. How to make her understand on listening to others.
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Finally, which doctor assistance required , like child psychologist ..
Thank you for reading all this, fellow parents. Any advises/Qns , let me know.
yes, can u suggest online therapists.