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[–] GTG3000 5 points 11 months ago

Yup. Wonderful memories of childhood when people were asking me "what are you trying to achieve" and I'm just sitting there thinking "I just told you I can not function like you want me to".

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Currently trying to get the relevant Government Agency to stop calling me about my mental health issues and just e-mail me instead.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I think I may have ADD. But I think I also have autism. Now I've read about PDD-NOS, but is that still a thing? And how easy would it be to diagnose my cocktail of things?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

ADHD is usually fairly easy to get evaluated for, depending on where you're located. Getting evaluated for autism as an adult is usually much more difficult.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Good to know. I have an appointment in the new year. Long waiting list ofcourse.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Pretty sure it's been changed around a bit lately but for shits n giggles, look up NLD (Neurological Learning Disorder) and see if that fits as well :p

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Thanks for the rabbithole, hehe. Also quite fits.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It's more helpful to think of it as one thing, your thing. Better than collecting diagnoses as some people are fond of doing. All these conditions overlap because the etiology overlaps.

Personally I was diagnosed with NDD-NOS, basically the same as what you're describing, with the understanding that it most closely matches ADHD-PI in terms of specific disorders.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

I agree. One single diagnosis in which stuff fits is probably better than multiple seperate ones.

Interesting, I did not know about NDD-NOS. I'll have a read. Thanks.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

The 7 stages are:

shock and denial. ------ You are here
pain and guilt.
anger and bargaining.
depression.
the upward turn.
reconstruction and working through.
acceptance and hope.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I dunno if there's anything to "self diagnosis chambers." I can only speak to my experience.

I'm an adult woman with late diagnosed ADHD. I became belligerent when diagnosed 4 years ago and refused to believe it (skipping ahead in the story) and now I hang out in ADHD spaces online because it's always helpful to feel like you're not alone. And because women tend to present with inattentive type, and largely went undiagnosed as children (since our suffering tends to be less disruptive and thus, easy to ignore).

You read like a neurotypical coming into our space like you're welcome and lecturing people who have a learning disability like anybody asked. Buzz off.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

ADHD is considered a disability (in the US) under the Americans with Disabilities Act. Which is why a person with an ADHD diagnosis is allowed to ask for reasonable accommodations.

The more you know.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Bonus reply; I would know. I work for the Department of Developmental and Intellectual Disabilities caring for disabled adults. Knowing the ADA is actually my bread and butter.

But go off on why it's not a disability.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

In many different scenarios I'd be right there with you, but I think you might be missing the point here.

People who are raised by people who don't struggle as much (and consequently are unable to relate or empathize meaningfully with ND struggles) are likely to grow up thinking they are broken and that they must hide who they are to avoid inconveniencing others. This might seem quaint, but think of it in terms of survival - not politeness.

When you see people commenting things like "omg I thought it was just me" or whatever, it's possible that this is the first time someone has ever felt like they weren't fundamentally alone. Once we get to this point, we can start to feel a bit more confident about learning more and/or seeking help.

And finally... your argument, "it's just less", is really fucking stupid. How is magnitude not relevant? Did you think before you wrote this, or are you just embarrassingly confident by default?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

I wanna show this guy that 79-year-old lady's post screaming, "You mean laundry isn't supposed to be agony?"

Jesus. What privileged behavior.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Neurotypical people don't do this.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

They really don't

I see people say shit like "every person does this" a lot of the time on adhd posts, but then people also wonder why I'm "so weird". Maybe it's because I have a condition that a neuropsychologist diagnosed me with and it's how it affects me? And that I'm actually different and not just "making it up" because it's an invisible disability?

Just because you don't see it doesn't mean it not real. Or because you yourself are not as neurotypical as you might think.

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